I have been pondering again, thinking about the difference between where I am at and where I would like to be. So I have come up with the following which I am going to implement over the coming week. My first goal is to read this a couple of times a day until until all of the ideas are ingrained and nature.
1. 1. Allocate your attention effectively.
- Because we live in a sea of possibilities, we have to become proficient at selecting options to think about and to experience. You must learn to focus yourself on the things that make you smile rather than upset; on things that will give you a sense of achievement once you have finished them rather than on what is entertaining now but will leave you with a sense of emptiness once you have finished, soaked in a sense of regret from procrastinating.
2. 2. Act Deliberately
- Time continues without pause. Because we measure our success by time (what did I get done today/this month/this year it is and because as we get older it seems to accelerate, we need to ensure we spend the available time we are measuring acting deliberately. What this means is that if you are going to eat that cookie, or watch TV, or play that computer game that you do so consciously and with intention to use a set period of time to do so. Most of the time we do thinks via auto pilot. We slip in through procrastination, past the door keep to success, and stay tucked away from sight of consciousness until some external demand that cannot be ignored crashes us out and back into the present. Much of what we do in these situations is related to escaping from reality. Once we start to act deliberately, then we realize that we have so much more time. We are better with our choices, and we get a lot more out of our life, because we pack a lot more into it.
3. 3. Make decisions in the view of opportunity cost.
- This is an extension of acting deliberately. In my sea of possibilities it is easy to see the activities I think I want to do including watching TV, or playing computer games etc. So because it is there, I can Act deliberately and say, ok, I am going to watch TV for one hour, and then go and do my housework, or play computer games for one hour and then go and do my homework. The key to a successful life is to understand that those possibilities include a vast range of other options you haven’t even tried yet. Opportunity cost is about what you could be doing instead. I acknowledge that there is a want to watch TV or a craving to eat those cookies, but I am going to pause for a moment first, and look at other options. What else can I do or eat instead.
4. 4. Measure the success of your choices before you even start doing them.
-How will I feel once I have finished this time. Will this choice give me a 10/10 sense of satisfaction in terms of achievement for my goals, and sense of success in my life if I choose it.
5. 5. Set time allocations on everything
-no matter what, set a time frame. At the end of that time frame stop what you are doing. See continuing with the same experience as a deliberate choice as if selecting a new experience. If you are not sure how long something will take, then set hourly time parameters, and review your decision. This gives you a sense of achievement within a big project and offers you the chance to inject freshening experiences into the mix to give you a sense you have done more with your day. These could be small experiences such as a 10 min appreciate walk, or a 5 min visualization exercise, or even a cup of tea.
6. Review every decision at the end of every time frame.
- This has the effect of helping you build momentum and success strength. Correct excerise can have the effect of making you fitter, stronger and faster or more efficient. Each time you practice these techniques you become more success fit, stronger of mind, and faster at achieving things. Reviewing is the most important part of garnering motivation to change, and improve. Time frames are necessary to give you a specific point to review.
7. Actively listen when ever some talks to you.
-Realise that they are an expert on how they feel about what they have experienced, and that truth is clouded by perception, so most of what they say is based on what they perceive reality to be. Therefore argument is futile. Listening helps them express where they are at in life. Often people need to hear themselves speak so they can gauge where they are currently at in the scheme of things. They are looking for reinforcement of their perceptions to give them a sense of confidence in what they have chosen to believe to be real. What you say either reinforces their sense of reality or challenges it.
8. Always pause before you speak. Identify what you want to achieve by what you are going to say.
9. Engage in something for your soul daily.
- This could be a random act of kindness; meditation; doing something that will engage laughter;
-This could be an intentional expression of appreciation to someone.
-This could be getting a massage (investing in yourself)
- This could be making time to read something inspirational.
10. Plan to discover something new regularly.
- this could be as simple as trying a new item on a menu, or a new restaurant, or taking a class in something you have never done such as yoga, or cooking.
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